I kept getting matched with someone like this in several femslash exchanges in a row, and it was maddening! We're both queer women in relationships with women in real life, and both have A Lot Of Feelings about our f/f ships (some of which even coincide, thus why we kept getting matched). But omg our ids did NOT align and I found almost everything she wrote to be about as delicious as a cardboard diorama of vegetables. Just...absolutely nothing there for me to grab onto emotionally, even though she considered it very romantic. But she was 100% writing out of love. (I mean, who knows, she might also have been writing it out of a feeling that she should be writing it, but all her posts seemed pretty damn sincere.)
You really can't tell just from whether a story works for you as a reader, alas.
Re: wank containment area
I kept getting matched with someone like this in several femslash exchanges in a row, and it was maddening! We're both queer women in relationships with women in real life, and both have A Lot Of Feelings about our f/f ships (some of which even coincide, thus why we kept getting matched). But omg our ids did NOT align and I found almost everything she wrote to be about as delicious as a cardboard diorama of vegetables. Just...absolutely nothing there for me to grab onto emotionally, even though she considered it very romantic. But she was 100% writing out of love. (I mean, who knows, she might also have been writing it out of a feeling that she should be writing it, but all her posts seemed pretty damn sincere.)
You really can't tell just from whether a story works for you as a reader, alas.