A ~fandom nemesis~ of mine is being publicly wanky in a way that's getting her noticed as a wanker by Fandom At Large, but Fandom At Large is completely misunderstanding the fundamentals of what makes that person so wanky due to lack of familiarity. And I can't step in to explain without revealing how creepily familiar with this person's very particular issues I am, and no one likes a grudgewanker.