Because women are socialized, in many cultures, not to make the first move, and that's hard to shake even when you're a woman who wants to date women and so it has to be a woman making the first move either way?
Because there's a lot of internalized fear of being "predatory" or of making someone uncomfortable by expressing romantic interest that a lot of us learn at a youngish age and, again, have a hard time shaking even when you know the woman you're interested in is also queer?
Because you're a nerd (you're on a fandom anon meme on DW, after all) and your social circles skew towards other nerds, many of whom are deeply socially awkward people regardless of orientation?
Re: wank containment area
Because there's a lot of internalized fear of being "predatory" or of making someone uncomfortable by expressing romantic interest that a lot of us learn at a youngish age and, again, have a hard time shaking even when you know the woman you're interested in is also queer?
Because you're a nerd (you're on a fandom anon meme on DW, after all) and your social circles skew towards other nerds, many of whom are deeply socially awkward people regardless of orientation?